Bitterness is the anger and disappointment that we exhibit whether intrinsically or extrinsically after being treated unfairly over a specific situation. In our lifetime, we will experience bitterness in one way or the other because we live in an unfair world and people may take decisions or actions which may lead us to be bitter or resentful.
The effect of bitterness are numerous and includes depression, anxiety, emotional pain, self-defeating, distrust, undermine your physical health, increase your stress level, self-doubt and weakening your personal ideals.
If any of these effects linger on in you, then your bitterness towards your perceived wrongdoer will persist and become inflamed and the consequences cannot be comprehended and may have negative impact on your lifestyle and sense of well-being.
The first and ultimate step towards curing your bitterness is to forgive your perceived “violator” and empower yourself to move on. When you forgive anyone who has wronged you in anyway it enables you to forego any form of grudge and resentment you have towards them. Doing this will restore your mental and emotional focus.
TEN (10) STRATEGIES TO OVERCOME BITTERNESS
In order to effectively overcome bitterness, we have outlined ten (10) strategies that can support and guide you to successfully overcome and cure the bitterness in you below:
- Forgive yourself for harboring anger and bitterness against the person or people who you perceive have wronged or betrayed you.
- Do well to forgive all those who you perceived have wronged you or betrayed you.
- Have a positive mind about the people that have resented or betrayed you.
- Develop a new way to reflect about the past and assess how bitterness impacted negatively in your life.
- Focus on the future and visualize the opportunities that abounds for you without the bitterness and resentments.
- Do a voice recording talking about the offenses by your “violator” and consequently forgive the person / people in your recording.
- Ensure that all resentments and bitterness about the “violator” is thoroughly forgiven and prevent yourself from talking bad about them.
- Appreciate your “violators” even when it is difficult to do so.
- Pray for your “violators” and pray for yourself to have a strong heart to overcome the bitterness and sustain the recovery process.
- Focus on how you can improve on your well-being both personally and professionally.